Show Some Dignity

I read this article on Newsweek about a family who lost their daughter in a horrific car accident.  Two CHP officers that were at the scene had taken photos minutes after the accident capturing the disturbing result of the accident.  These photos (which I have not seen and do not desire to see) have been posted all over the web.  The photos show the incredible wreckage done to that poor girl – photos of what she looked like after the accident – photos of the dead.

These photos leaked quickly because the CHP officers had sent them to a few family members and friends to warn people.  It turned viral.  It went all over town, next thing you know it was all over the internet.

Anything that gets posted on the internet is virtually accessible to everyone.  Once it gets spread, there’s almost no way to track it or to stop it.  If you read the article, you’ll see what type of horrific surprises this family faced due to the photos being on the internet.

Why would people want to view such horrific photos…photos of someone who is dead – result of a horrible horrible accident?  The article talks about anonymity – the internet is like a mask allowing people to do what they want without being judged.  I think it is partly because there is no emotional attachment from the viewer to the person in the photo.  To them it’s just a photo – to them, it might not even be real.  They don’t know the family, they aren’t friends, there is a disconnect which I think makes people have no bad feelings about spreading the photo further and further.

I feel really bad for that family.  They suffered such a great loss in such a terrible way, yet here they are trying to battle the “world”, to try to live each day without a photo of their dead daughter/sister pop up in their face.  People deserve dignity.  By continually posting this girl’s photo around, they are not giving her any dignity.  She’s human like you and me.  She deserves more than that and so does her family.

Random Thoughts

My shins hurt.  They’ve sort of been hurting every time I play Ultimate.  Shin splints?  I hope not.

Have you ever seen those SONIC commercials?  They make the drinks look so good.  Well, guess what, I just discovered that they opened a one down here in SD.  I also read that the lines were crazy long.  I want to go try it!

Hillsong concert was awesome.  I would go again and again and again.  It’s amazing to see, hear, and experience thousands of people all singing in unison – worshipping.  I love the LOUD music.  I love the passion.  One of the things I miss about going to Flood is the worship.  The LOUD worship where you just become immersed and focused.  It was refreshing and the speaker was excellent!  I <3 Hillsong.

I’d Rather Know

Recent events have made me think that knowing something is better than not knowing at all.  In other words, to have closure about something is much better than to be kept wondering.  I think wondering about things is good, it stimulates the mind, but I think at the “end of the day”, it makes life a lot easier to be certain.

In a general statement referenced to life happenings whether it be towards relationships, school, jobs, the future, I find that it is better for people to know because not knowing is worse than being rejected.  In an example of relationships, I find that people stay in this “in-between” stage or “never even make it on the stage” state of mind, because people are afraid of rejection.  But at least, if the person is rejected, they know, they can move on, instead of waiting for what could be nothing.  If it turns out to be something, then great, if not, everyone can move on and no one has to wait around.  I think this definitely applies to everything you do in life too.  I know its easier said than done – but I have the liberty of saying it, so I will: Don’t hold back because you’re afraid of being rejected when you pursue life, love, and happiness.

As Babe Ruth put it (I know there are varied versions):  Never let the fear of striking out stop you from playing the game.

Swine Flu

Headlines have been covering the Swine Flu like crazy in the past few days!  I’m actually following it pretty closely.  I didn’t really follow too much about SARS but this is kind of closer to “home”.  And I think when things happen near you and could possibly happen to you, you tend to pay more attention to it.

I’ve been thinking about how easily Swine Flu spreads which is probably why it has spread across such distances so quickly.  It is contagious, just like a common cold.  It is spread through germs.  And as I think about the guidelines written about how to stay “safe”, like wash your hands frequently and avoid touching your face especially around the eyes, nose, and mouth area, I see how incredibly easy it can spread.  I believe one article I read said that a circumference of about 3 feet around a person is where germs reside.  So it is really easy for someone to cough or sneeze, or even breathe and for you to be standing right next to them to inhale all the germs.  And at work, I was thinking about all the things we touch from door handles, microwave handles, the desk, anything can have these germs on it.  We don’t know what the last person touched with their hands before they touched something.  And people frequently put their hands on/near their face.  I know I do it all the time.  So it is not surprising that this has spread so quickly and seems difficult to contain.

I was getting some ice from the mini-fridge at work today.  It was just a “bucket” of ice which had tongs for you to grab the ice.  The purpose of the tongs is so that people don’t get their germy hands all over the ice.  But, I was thinking, if someone sneezed, grabbed the tongs to get ice, then threw the tongs back in, then the rest of the ice is already contaminated since the tongs just lay in the ice bucket!  Gross.

Anyway, this Swine Flu thing is crazy and I will be keeping myself up to date with it!

Blue Water Seafood Market & Grill

I was flipping through channels on the tv the other night when Food Network caught my eye.  It was diners, drive-ins, and dives (or whatever it is called) and it was featuring this place that sold fish.  It looked like a small little casual place.  The fish looked really good – they had a variety of sauces you could pick from, fishes you could pick from, and lastly you would pick if you wanted a sandwich, plate, or salad.  It turns out that the place was in SD!  I was like…mmm that place looks good!  I yelped it and the reviews were a bit mixed but I think they still had 4 stars.  So, I told my housemate about it and we were off to try it.

The place smelled kinda fishy and the line was quite long.  I’m sure that had a boost in traffic since the place got featured on tv.  I ordered the clam chowder, a mahi mahi sandwich with half lemon garlic butter marinade and half chipotle marinade and we shared some calamari.  M. got the halibut sandwich.  I thought my sandwich was pretty good, had I not even anything else, I think I would rate the place 4 stars.  But, the calamari was just okay, not even close to as good as it was at the Yardhouse.  The clam chowder wasn’t great but it wasn’t bad either.  The halibut sandwich was okay.  I liked my sandwich.  :)

I also ordered a coke and they gave me a cup of ice and a canned soda.  I poured the soda in the cup and drank it and thought, wow this smells like fish!!  That was so gross!  I kept calling it fish ice.  M. said he thought it smelled a little weird but not that bad.  I was thinking in my head that maybe they laid the fish on the ice and then put the ice in my cup.  SICK.

Anyway, so the place was alright, not extraordinary.

About a couple hours after I got home, I was getting itchy on my back and was like, dang, I just got like 10 bug bites on my back!  So I was asking M. if he had any bug bites.  He was like no.  It was pretty itchy and felt really gross.  So whatever, I went to sleep.  Woke up in the middle of the night feeling itchy all over!  I went to the bathroom and realized I had these red itchy splotches all over my upper legs and more on my back.  GROSS.  And I was thinking, what the heck?  I wonder if I have an allergic reaction…

But I’m not allergic to seafood…or so I thought.  I’ve eaten fish and calamari and had clam chowder with no problem before.  In the morning it was still there.  At first I got kind of scared because there has been talks in the news of bed bug infestations.  Gross.  But I took some antihistimine and things are much better now, which makes me think I really was allergic to something.  But what?  Who knows..and I hope it really was just a rashes from an allergic reaction NOT bed bugs.  I guess I’ll find out when I wake up in the morning.

So, if I just had my sandwich, I would rate the place a 4.  But the other stuff was sub-par, so 3.5.  And the allergic reaction makes me want to just give it a 3!! =P

Anyone else been there?  What did you think?

CBC Tourney

The CBC basketball tournament was this past weekend.  It was great to be able to play basketball again, to play INDOOR basketball.  It’s so different indoors than outdoors and I think it’s hard for people who don’t play to understand why.  While I am thankful I was able to even get on a team to play, I’ll admit I was a little apprehensive about playing with this team.

I had never played with these people before and I didn’t even know many of them.  We were made up of such a wide variety of ages and skill, I was a bit nervous about the whole thing.  And I ended up being the captain of the team, which was not something I had planned on doing or had a strong desire to do.

I don’t like being captain because it’s a bit stressful.  There are often conflicting interests in ways to manage the team.  Also, since I haven’t really played with these people before, I didn’t know how they would handle someone telling them when to sub or what to do.  As a captain, I always feel that each person should get their playing time.  I always want to make it as fair as possible.  This is difficult to do when you also want to win.  I’m not going say its not about winning, because in the end, the goal is to try to win.

The first half of the tournament was fun.  We won all 3 of the round robin games!  It was great.  I think everyone was happy about the amount of time they played, at least for the most part.  Then we got into playoffs and everything just went up a notch.  I was trying to keep our subbing pattern going but the game got intense.  We were losing and we wanted our best players on the court.  We had the best players on the court for the most part but then I felt really bad for the others, especially since they were “kids” on the bench.  So I called for subs.  One kid barely got to play and I felt really bad.  This is the biggest struggle and I hate dealing with it because it’s so incredibly stressful.  I’m sure that kid is upset about not getting to play very much, but what could I do?  Sigh.

Regardless, I still had a good time playing indoor basketball and winning a few games which I did not do last year.  I guess we’ll wait until next year.

Cooking

I like food.  I like cooking.  I love to look at cookbooks, especially the ones with pictures.  Sometimes I wish I had a huge kitchen with all the ingredients in stock including spices and what not.  I think I can cook but my problem is that I’m lazy and never know what to buy.  And I never want to buy too much because it’ll go bad.  If only I had all these ingredients that never went bad!  Then I could make whatever I wanted and could experiment on people.  I think I find joy in cooking for people.  Cooking is fun.  Tell me what you want to eat and I’ll probably figure it out and be happy to make it for you.

Praise God…

from whom all blessings flow.  It is amazing what can happen when you let go.  I have no idea how things are going to eventually turn out when it all ends, but I am at peace right now.  Plus I can’t seem to get this silly grin off my face thinking about how amazed I am by His doing.  :)

Letting Go…

There have been a lot of things going on (at least in my mind) lately about all sorts of things.  I’ve really been trying to just let go and to let God take control.  This has lead me to be more peaceful about some things.  It just makes things so much less stressful.  I know that if God wants something for me and if it is in His will, then it will be done.  I’m trying to learn that worrying more about things doesn’t really do anything but laying it all down in front of God and letting Him guide is crucial and it’s all we need.  So I pray for opportunities, but I’m praying that when He does present one, He’ll lead me there and I”ll follow.